Category Archives: Family & Friends

Pollyanna finds her people

Lyda here.

Last night I finished re-reading “Let’s Pretend This Never Happened” by Jenny Lawson aka The Bloggess.

I LOVE THIS BOOK!!! I feel as if I found my homeland. It is a land of truly weird stuff and truly wonderful off-kilter people, and Jenny is our leader.

Also, I learned quite a lot of very bizarre and not-useful stuff, including things about taxidermy that I could happily have lived my whole life without knowing. See this post for my first crazy gushing fan post  review of this book.

Now that I’ve read it through twice, and injured myself laughing, I can loan it to the Sith Master, so that he can understand his mom better.

He promised not to lock me in the padded room.

Pollyanna counts her stitches – and her blessings

Lyda here.

I’ve been quilting for years. But Anna-Liza assimilated me into the knitting fellowship. Since then, I’ve knit scarves, and random rectangular things. But I’ve never followed a pattern. I’ve always just cast on whatever seemed like a good size and gone for it. With varying results.

Now, for the first time ever, I am knitting a pattern.

One where I have to count stitches and change from knit to purl within each row.

First. Time. Ever.

It took me three tries to get the gauge right, or semi-right. And then on the third try, I somehow accidentally increased by two stitches somewhere in the middle. That’s what I get for watching detective shows while trying to count.

So once again, it was frogged and I knit it again.

It’s supposed to be a dishcloth. That seemed like a big enough challenge for my first knitting pattern. Details and pictures to follow once I take some pictures and write down the yarn I’m using. Nothing like being prepared when I blog.

I’m done with it. And I still am not sure if it came out right. But it kind of looks like the picture on the pattern, so there it is.

Next I did a simpler dishcloth, and now I’m knitting a third with a different (very easy) pattern that I am making up on my own – we’ll see how that goes. So far it’s been frogged twice. But it’s kind of fun.

And today I’m counting my blessings as well as my stitches. Today’s blessing count includes:

  • The Sith Master – always. My son is the joy and the love of my life. On Mother’s Day, he took me to dinner and a movie. We saw Iron Man 3, my choice, and had a blast. Last weekend, we saw the new Star Trek movie. Life is just more awesome with him in it.
  • Anna-Liza, my BFF, fellow Pollyanna, and partner in mischief and adventure. If it wasn’t for the distance between here and Colorado, we’d still be getting each other into and out of trouble on a regular basis. In fact, we still do. Take that, Stupid Pointy Mountains!
  • The Irish Beauty, my dear friend who lives too far away now to go treasure hunting with me on the weekends, but who is always in my heart.
  • My siblings and family – awesome, every one.
  • My friends who took me into their home and made me welcome.
  • My co-workers, who keep things lively and fun.
  • The orange and black songbirds that have been nesting and flying around the condo and the parking lot at work. I think they are orieles, possibly this one. Beautiful!
  • The crazy, funny, loveable Disney Dog, who makes me laugh every single day.
  • And the fun of writing this blog. I love it!!

I’ll be doing the blessing count randomly as I think of it, and y’all should know that all of the above are givens each time. I won’t mention them each time, but they’ll be there on the list just the same.

But I digress…

Back to the counting! One stitch, two stiches, three…. ahahaha!

Pollyanna and the Siblings of Awesomeness!

Lyda here.

My siblings are in no way connected to Doom. They are in every way connected to Awesome.

Today is National Siblings Day. A good day to tell siblings – genetic or otherwise – how much they mean to you.

What do I mean, genetic or otherwise?

One of my own (genetic) siblings taught me something important about families, which was reinforced in my psychology studies.

There is your family of origin, into which you were born or adopted. Depending on the family, it could include parents, siblings, grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, ancestors – the whole family tree.

And there is your family of choice. These are the people that you choose as your family. This could include one or more partners, close friends, and mentors. A broader definition could include those to whom you feel a deep bond – whether or not you have ever met them, and those who inspire you –  artists, writers, spiritual leaders, political figures, and so on.

Sometimes both your family of origin and your family of choice enrich your lives. Sometimes, for a variety of reasons, those from your family of origin are not in your life.

I feel lucky when it comes to family.

My family of origin includes my genetic siblings:  four brothers and a sister who enrich my life with love, laughter, and all manner of wonderfulness. My family has expanded to include one fabulous brother-in-law, two beautiful sister-in-laws, and a joyful abundance of nieces, nephews, grand-nieces, and grand-nephews.

My family of choice includes Anna-Liza and her family, Irish Beauty, and so many more, many friends, mentors, guides, and companions. I am lucky to have many amazing siblings this way.

And of course, any definition of “my family” starts and ends with my wonderful son, known on this blog as the Sith Master.

Today, I want to hug them all and thank them for being in my life.

I love you, family!

Pollyanna and the Dogs of Silliness

Lyda here.

As y’all may remember, I am currently renting a room in a friend’s condo, aka Chez Disney. To say that my friends enjoy all things Disney would be to miss an opportunity to use the word “obsessed.”

Their dog – aka Disney Dog – is a springer spaniel with more enthusiasm than sense. He believes that he is the undisputed ruler, not only of the condo, but also of the sidewalk and street outside. This means that neighbors, cats, and vehicles inspire a vocal concert from Disney Dog.

Disney Dog loves the sound of his own voice. Once he starts barking, he just keeps on for the sheer joy of it. He is completely capable of barking for an hour nonstop. Yes, I timed him. His bark sounds vicious, like he wants to tear someone apart. And his bark is not worse than his bite, as I can testify from personal experience. Just a minor misunderstanding. Or two. Ouch. He really would tear a stranger apart if only we would let him.

His hypervigilance could be comforting when I’m home alone, except for his habit of sleeping in my roommates’ closet where he can’t hear the passing parade. I think he uses the closet as a quiet place to unwind a bit, the dog equivalent of smoking in the boy’s room.

But maybe he has a secret exit. Maybe when I don’t know where he is he’s off being Super Dog, cape flying.

No capes!”  

Disney Dog would not be great in a zombie apocalypse. His frenzied barking would attract zombies. He would attack any potential human allies. He would hurl himself at the first zombie he saw, which would not end well. At best, he might distract the zombies while the humans make a run for it in the opposite direction. He is no Samantha.

Did I mention that I started a Zombie Apocalypse Survival Team at work? I’ve got a nutritionist/first aid expert, a martial-arts black belt/technology expert, and a scrappy fighter/funny chick. So far. It’s important to have people you like on your team, because the post-apocalypse might last a while. And no whiners. You need funny and resourceful people. My plan is that we bug out and meet up with the Sith Master at his dad’s house, where we make a long-term plan based on the situation.

One guy told us he won’t join, because he doesn’t want to live in such a world. Instead he volunteered to be bait while the rest of us escape. And y’all thought I was weird. I think he might change his mind when the time comes, but if not, well, we’ll make sure his sacrifice is not in vain.

Did I mention there’s a TV show called Surviving Zombies? Lots of good tips there.

Did I mention that I digress…?

Now, go read this post  about a more intellectual dog, on The Velvet Cerebellum – which is an awesome blog name and has nothing to do with fabric – and laugh.

* More Wisdom from Edna Mode.

Pollyanna is pensive

One of my beautiful and amazing friend-sisters wrote this poem.

On days like this, it sustains me. Bless you, Sherry.

In the moment of darkness,

When you forget who you are,

Unwrap the beauty of your breath

This is the gentle path to your heart

Feel the Love gently gift-wrapped in between each breath

That’s who you are,

That’s where you belong.

.

Breathe into the noises in your head,

Or outside,

Which tell you lies,

You are not this breath,

Faster or slower with fear,

You are not this breath,

Waiting to be acknowledged,

You are not this breath,

Gone when your ashes are one with the ocean and the earth,

.

You are the essence and the petals of the flower whispering “Love”.

And that always belongs.

–  Shahrzad Sami

Pollyanna Procrastinates… As Usual

Lyda here. I should be working on my homework, but I wanted to pop in and say hello. You say “procrastination”, I say “keeping in touch with my virtual friends”. Potato, Potahto.

And I do have a lot to report on. This time: Seattle.

The overnight trip to Seattle was just about the right length of time. A nice chat with my sister on the drive from the airport, then a family lunch at home, a long afternoon of talking to each other, and then out for Chinese food.

Most of the extended Seattle family was there – including two nieces I hadn’t seen since they were toddlers, a nephew I’d never met, the nieces’ two mothers, and the nephew’s mother. Oh, and my oldest brother who lives on an island, my sister, my brother and my brother-in-law (my brother’s husband) – who happen to have the same first name.

Are you confused now? My Gorgeous and Younger brother has three children via sperm donation, all in their teens now. The two girls live with their two mothers (who are married), and take it as normal that they have two fathers (my brother and brother-in-law). 

The nephew has a mother (and two other adult sisters who are not related to me by blood, but why stop adding nieces now?). He has only recently come into my brother’s life, as he wanted to meet his dad when he turned 18. Which is why this is the first time I met my nephew.

Oh, and my two oldest brothers (the one who lives on the island and the one who is a doctor) are technically my half-brothers, as they are the sons of my father and his first wife. And one of my cousins on that side is also their sister by adoption, as my father’s sister died while my cousin was young, and my father’s brother who was raising my half-brothers (their mother having died young also) adopted my cousin, so she is their cousin and their sister.

There. That’s clear, isn’t it? Our family tree is a bit… convoluted. But healthy.

But I digress…

With so many people on Saturday, maybe y’all can understand why I felt the need for a long walk in the rain on Sunday morning. Well, it wasn’t really raining when I left with my brother to walk to the store, but it was misting. I took my camera, and let him go off to the store without me while I took pictures of the neighborhood. By the time I got back to the house, it was really raining, I was soaked (note to self for next time:  take an extra pair of shoes so I’m not squelching in the airport), but I had some awesome shots and I had enjoyed the quiet beauty.

I was in time to say good-bye to my sister who was heading off to catch a plane to Africa. She works for a non-profit and travels to Africa a lot. Younger brother works for a non-profit too, as do I. Another family trend. Then it was time for their weekly Sunday brunch.

The nieces and nephew came, as did various and sundry friends. Apparently, all the regulars had been told that their attendance was mandatory, so I got to met a lot of people. A lot of people. And best of all, one of my dear friends came – he and my brother were best friends growing up, and I just love him. It was so much fun seeing him again after so many years – he hasn’t changed a bit, still funny and charming and wry and a great storyteller. The last time I’d seen him was at my wedding reception so very many years ago.

After the crowd left, another nephew who lives in Seattle came by. This nephew is one of My Brother the Doctor’s sons, and I hadn’t seen him in many years. He is now a nurse, and as always, quite funny and very relaxed. So that was excellent too.

It was more social interaction than I am used to getting in a year, and I was tired and talked-out by the time I got on the plane. But happy I went.

Not that I had much choice. When younger brother sets his mind to it, resistance really is futile.

Pollyanna Checks In – the wine is for loading only…

Lyda here.

Just a quick check in before I fly off to Seattle tomorrow. I’m only going overnight – an extravagance that I would never indulge in on my own. But Gorgeous and Younger brother insisted that I visit, and since he used his frequent flyer miles for the ticket, I realized – as always when younger brother has his mind set on something – resistance is futile.

The Zombie Army will of course be traveling in the baggage compartment. I hope the baggage handlers are quick on their feet, or there could be unplanned snacks for the horde.

But before I fly, I had to share with you this gem from a work email I just got, saying that a workshop will be great for parents, and I quote:

“and will be a great way to support that new mussel that we are developing.”

I’m glad our baby shellfish will get the support they need.

Just how do you support mussels? Create a “wine sauce free” zone?

Mmm… wine sauce…

Weirdness – It’s the only way to fly!

Pollyanna Jumps on the “slack-off Friday” bandwagon

Lyda here.

Do you know about ittybiz.com? I hope one of us has mentioned it before. Maybe several times.

Anyway, last Friday, Naomi declared Friday as slack off day. That totally fits how I’m feeling today, that’s for sure. Her post of last Friday includes such gems as a link to the incredible and inspiring post “You Allow The Moment” on Elizabeth Potts Weinstein’s blog about living your truth.

Be sure not to miss the shrimp at the end. Hey, if you are going to jump the shark, do it with a shrimp.

This Friday’s post includes gems as well. Go ahead, check it out. I know y’all are dying to find out why Rob hates Pachelbel. I’m right there with you, Rob. I did sound on a show that used this piece of music, and I came to hate the damn thing. Not the show so much as this particular piece of music.

Hey, Anna-Liza, was that the show we worked together? You know, when we met?

Memories…

Another song I hate. As does anyone who has sat through 25 terrible renditions of it during auditions. Seriously people, find some new material.

But that link is the excellent rendition by a truly gifted singer from the Broadway cast. Because it is a beautiful song when done well.

But I digress again…

And speaking of material, the Sith Master has requested a new quilt, as his old green one is becoming rather threadbare.

He wants red this time.

And manly.

Do we feel a Lumberjack Quilt coming on?

Heh. Maybe I’ll call it the Lumberjack Quilt while I’m making it. Just to mess with him a bit.

He’s 19 now. This will be the quilt that he has when he graduates college. I am going to be making a quilt for my adult son. That is too weird, for all kinds of reasons.

I’d better look at patterns and fabric this weekend, or the quilt won’t be done before he graduates.

Pollyanna’s Putting Out Fires

Hey, Anna-Liza here again. Yet more on the Really Fun Memorial Day Weekend. Sunday late afternoon, we went to Denver to check out the Chalk Art Festival with South African Knitting Buddy and her family, then head over to Confluence Park for the Sunday night firespinning jam.

Unfortunately, we had the dates wrong for the Chalk Art Festival, which is actually this weekend, June 5th and 6th. (Go if you get the chance! It looks pretty cool.)

We did find a nice little pocket park with a playground near Confluence and had our picnic there, so the kidlets could all play. SAKB’s kids are a bit younger than my two, but they play really well together. There was a shade shelter with tables, so we had a pretty comfortable picnic. Then off to Confluence.

The spin jam at Confluence had deteriorated some over the years – the original spirit of community had dissipated. When it all started about 10 years ago, it was a friendly place to come practice, try out new stuff, and learn new stuff from other spinners, with a group of drummers who came along for a couple hours’ drum jamming. It wasn’t well known, so there were mostly participants and very few spectators.

The last time I was at Confluence, some months ago, it wasn’t as bad as some of the rumors I’d heard, but there was really no communication between groups or even between individuals within the groups, and there was this sort of macho competitive atmosphere that I didn’t care for much. No one was really safety spotting and people didn’t pay much attention to proximity to flame or fuel. The audience had grown to kind of scary proportions, too.

Recently, Darlin’ K recruited a few other spinners to try to save the Confluence weekly jam from itself. They went down for several weeks in a row, initiating a “meet ‘n’ greet” so the spinners could get to know each other, suggesting some safety measures (like keeping the spectators back from the spinning area and keeping the smoking specatators away from the fuel) and generally trying to improve the level of community feeling and involvement among the spinners, drummers, and spectators. Know what? Darlin’ K is freakin’ brilliant at this kind of thing. He somehow leads without ever being overbearing or disrespectful, so people are willing to listen to him.

This was the first time I’d been down there since then. This time, the spinners actually looked each other in the face and smiled, clearly at least acquainted and now feeling like comrades instead of competitors. Some of them were willing to spend some of their time and energy coordinating things. The spectators were willing to abide by the safety requests of staying out of the fuel dump area and the spinning area (on the brick terraces next to the river). People in the front row were actually acting as safety spotters. (I was, of course, but I mean other than myself). One of the main guys among the drummers had brought a bunch of trash bags along and taped them up by the park trash cans, because there is always more trash than capacity. After the show, I saw at least four people carrying the bags around and asking people to put their trash in, and picking up trash that had been left. They weren’t even spinners or drummers – they were spectators that liked coming to hang out there and wanted to contribute.

It was beautiful, and there were so many spinners of so many different experience levels – I even spotted for one girl who was lighting up for the first time ever, and she was so excited! I think a few weeks ago she would have been intimidated by the vibe. And really, there are not very many places to practice firespinning! I’ve always thought of the Confluence spin jam as a place for newbies to get some experience and advice, and now it seems to be that again.

That said, I do think some of the newer spinners need some experience working with trained safeties. Most of the time, if a spinner catches his clothes on fire, he can put it out himself. It’s excess fuel that’s burning, and white gas burns at a relatively low temperature. It takes a while for the actual fabric to catch. Most commonly, they need a spotter for when it’s on their backs or their fire toys tangle up and they can’t get them undone.

I had a little more activity as a spotter that night than usual. Darlin’ K caught his back with the staff once, and one other guy did the same with poi … and one guy was doing leg wraps with poi and caught his crotch on fire. Young guy, I’d say early 20s, right in front of me. The general rule for spotting is you spot for the people closest to you and … well.

He was a little panicky, trying to put it out himself, but it happened early in his set and there was a lot of fuel. He also didn’t drop his poi, so I didn’t have a clear shot (so to speak) to use the wet towel. I ended up throwing the towel at him (sort of like a snap, but not so hard) so he could grab it and use it himself, and it was all fine.

Honestly, the thought of grabbing a strange guy’s crotch with a wet towel didn’t particularly appeal to me, so it’s just as well. (“Hi there!”) But my point is, if he’d been more used to working with a spotter he might have remembered to get his poi out of the way. So I could grab his crotch. With a wet towel.

Either way, the fire got put out and he kept spinning. That’s the real point.

Ahem.

Pollyanna Says “CAKE for all!”

Lyda here. Y’all knew that from the title, didn’t you?

I received the following email, which has my favorite subject of any email I’ve ever gotten at work:

From: Quiet I.T. Guy at Work
Sent: Tuesday, April 13, 2010 11:41 AM
To: [everyone in the office]
Subject: CAKE

[coworker] got me an awesome bday cake, and because I’m such a nice guy I’ve decided to share it with you all!

Cake in the kitchen for anyone that wants some 🙂

It was chocolate, too. Yum.

A few random items…

Check out the Graffiti Vending Machine.

And this: “Never Take Fitness Advice from The New York Times” from which I must quote:

Being thin is an awful goal towards which to strive. It is certainly not the goal of an exercise program. Writing an entire, ostensibly meaningful and important story on whether exercise can make you thin is analogous to wondering whether going to college can get you laid. Yes, but that’s not really the point.

Awesome!

I found that article through this blog post, “The only thing we need to lose is our obsession with thinness” – and I quote:

The goal of working out, and even of eating healthy foods, is to be HEALTHY, which may or may not mean being thin. In fact, for many people, it will not mean being thin. And being thin does not necessarily mean being healthy, either.

Okay, Pollyanna, step away from the soap box.

And now for something completely different…

I screwed up really huge on Monday, and I feel terrible about it. I felt sick, so I stayed home. I spent most of the day napping and/or watching TV, and hanging out with the dog. And then I stepped outside for just a moment, and the dog got out, and he went after another dog. I grabbed him and neither dog was hurt. But the other owner went home and called Animal Control and says that my roommate’s dog bit his (the other dog owner’s) hand. Animal Control came and took my roommate’s dog for ten days of observation. (Animal Control says the man has two minor marks on his hand, but honestly, his own dog could have done it for all I know. I certainly did not see my roommate’s dog bite his hand.)

Both of my roommates are upset, of course, and their poor dog looked so scared getting into that truck. He was just shaking, and so was I.

I just don’t know how to atone for this. It was a momentary lapse of concentration – I thought I’d latched the dog gate, and I thought I’d closed the front door all the way, but obviously I didn’t. And my roommate’s dog might have thought that he was coming to my rescue, as the other dog was moving toward me. He is very protective. (The other dog was tiny and friendly, but he could have thought I was in danger.)

The roommates are so careful with their dog. They never let him near strange dogs or people, and they would never have made my mistake and let him escape. I feel terrible that they are going through this, and that their dog is being punished for my carelessness.

I just feel sick about it.

No, I don’t think cake will help.